Family Of Two

Entries from June 2008

The Kindness of Strangers…

June 29, 2008 · 8 Comments

One of Jacob’s and my passions is walking around peddlers fairs, and lucky for us we have one up the road from us. We haven’t been in quite some time, April 6 to be exact (funny what we remember isn’t it), and with today’s rain in the forecast we weren’t sure if we would get there on this particular Sunday either, but we did. Armed with $100, we weren’t sure we would find anything of interest given that the asphalt was only half full.

Towards the end of the rows however my luck changed. In my past life I was a studio photographer, and then a studio manager. However a high school introduction to photography spawned a life long love. So through the years I began what has become a rather nice sized camera collection of unusable, but interesting oldies but goodies.  My Brownie for example for $3 has to be my best find so far.  Yet, every now and again I will stumble upon a camera that is still usable, but that is so over priced that I refuse to take it home. This I have found especially true of the P@ntax K100( ) everyone who has them KNOWS what they have. Until today that is, and it was Jacob who stumbled across it. A PRISTINE K 1()()() in a case with not only a 50 mm lens, but a 200 mm lens!! At first I walked past, there was no way that I could possibly walk away with it, they probably wanted $200 for it. But in reality it was $65 Jake relayed, for everything. The body, a 50 mm lens, and a 200 mm lens. I played with it for a minute, checking the internal light meter, confirming that the lenses and mirror weren’t scratched. It was beautiful, and felt so good in my hands. Still, with 2 cameras at home–one SLR digital, and one SLR 35 mm I couldn’t justify spending $65 on it not matter how wonderful it would be. Then they offered it to us for $50, but I still declined.

As we were leaving the fair, my legs became concrete. I couldn’t walk back to the car. I was lusting after a camera that spawned a passion.   Jacob said, lets go back and get it, I don’t want you to regret not buying it.  “Offer them $40, if they accept I will take it” I told Jacob and away we went.  We raced back to the row praying that it was still there, containing my excitement when I discovered that it was. I held back when we arrived, I didn’t want to be disappointed, but as I saw Jacob stoop down and pick up the case I knew it was mine. I rejoined him and took my prize. Making sure to thank the sales woman. As we turned to walk away she called us back “Camera lady wait a second” she said and my heart sank. She changed her mind. $40 was a steal and she knew it. “Here I want to give this to you. You will appreciate it” I looked down and in her hands was a box. Inside of the box was an equally pristine leather bound Polaroid Land Camera. “I stammered out a thank you” and walked back up the row towards our car.  I couldn’t believe it.  I had a new piece for my collection, and a coveted camera to rediscover a passion with.

The lady who sold me my dream  didn’t know it, but the last time we were at the fair, I had a feeling I was pregnant and two days later I found out I was, nor does she know that a week later on a Sunday that I started spotting or that today started my AF. Marking the end of our conception efforts. So while, we were there to have fun and were. In the back of my head those two events were intermingling. Yet during a brief encounter, she completely turned Sunday’s from a day that I hate into a day that rekindled love. She didn’t have to take $40, and she didn’t have to add to my collection…but she did, and I am so grateful that there are strangers out there who are kind. Who without even being aware made my day in more ways than one.

Now if I can just find someone who is selling a dark room enlarger I think I can easily convert the “nursery” into a dark room and who knows… I may just remember what it was like to be consumed by something other than efforts related to TTC…

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Had I Waited…

June 28, 2008 · 6 Comments

Had I waited to take my temperature today instead of getting my blood work yesterday I may have ruined my weekend.  Despite the knowing that I wasn’t expecting a tiny part of me wanted to believe the PR that “every pregnancy is different”  and after all there were SOME things that pointed to maybe a baby.  Every morning Jacob would wake after me and ask “how was your temperature today?”  and every day I got to tell him “still high”  So I am glad I got my blood work done when my temperature was 98.4 instead of when it dropped to 97.9.

Instead of wallowing we are looking forward to a full weekend.  If the weather holds there will be a day at the “whale pool”, and then a Pirate Game tonight.  Tomorrow, it will be a fun filled day of taking MIL off of time out.  Oh boy won’t be fun!  The last time we were at the in-laws Jacob decided to have the first moment of his near death experience.  So I am not quite sure how to top that experience.

So there you have it.  Things have a way of working out.  Onward and upward…and a three month “break” of sorts.  More on that on Monday…for now I have a weekend to enjoy.

Categories: Uncategorized

Well Now That I Know…

June 27, 2008 · 5 Comments

I am 12 dpo today so I decided to put us all out of our misery.  I had some fairly tender breasts the other day, but over and above that ZIPPO for prenancy symptoms.  Of course the PR is “Every pregnancy is different”  but when you have been playing as many innings of the ball game as I have, you know when its a home run and when its a strike.

I wouldn’t nessessarily call this a strike.  I would say it was a fly ball to left center field, and it was caught.  Either way I am out.

My HCG was 2, and my P4 which had been 49.3 at 4 days post ovulation has now droped to 10.8  Aunt Flo should be here right on time, on Sunday.  Which of course completely throws off my “I never have a 14 day LP unless pregnant” mantra.  I tell you the best laid plans…

So there it is.  The 2ww is for all intents and purposes over.  Now we have to decide how to proceed next.  While idealy I would love to jump back into the frey with both feet, my PTO and my impending vacation do not allow me that luxury.  So who knows where to go from here…but at least now that I know…I can plan accordingly…

Categories: TTC AFTER LOSS

Reaping What You Sow…

June 27, 2008 · 6 Comments

They say as you get older the first portion of the paper that you look at is the obituaries.  I find as I am rapidly approaching my mid 30’s that I am inclined to agree.  Of course I don’t sit at the dining room table with a cup of coffee, but rather I check the online version.  Even with the advent of electronic reading material I find that one of the first sections I check are  those,  the obituaries. 

Sometimes its an old neighbor that I find, or an old teacher.  Sometimes its just a last name that jumps out at me so I open the link  to see if its someone I know.  Today was just such a case.  The last name is one that I recognized, so being curious to see if it was a relation to the persons I know with that last name I opened it  and here is what I found:

*last names removed*

G******** HELEN
99, of Averyville Lane, Lake Placid, NY passed away Tuesday, June 24, 2008 at the Adirondack Medical Center in Saranac Lake, NY. She was born in Philadelphia, PA, August 15, 1908. Daughter of Robert and Frances. Mrs. G had worked as receptionist and secretary for Fruehauf Trailer Corp., Pittsburgh, PA for several years. She is survived by her daughter, Linda S and her husband Hugh of Lake Placid, NY. She is also survived by her extended family, Margaret S of Pittsburgh, PA, Muriel and Thomas S of Pittsburgh, PA Dylan S of Pittsburgh, PA and several nieces and nephews. There are no calling hours. Services and Burial will be held at the convenience of the family. The CLARK FUNERAL HOME, Lake Placid, NY is in charge of arrangements.

It is the portion in bold that bothers me.  “…at the convenience of the family”  Now I don’t know if this woman was a saint or a sinner, and frankly I don’t care.  Obviously SOMEONE thought enough of her to place an obituary ad in the paper.  Yet the service will be held at THEIR CONVENIENCE.  This rubs me to the quick.  This woman has a daughter, and has several nieces and nephews, plus “extended family” yet not one could take the time to sit in a funeral home for a few hours and let someone pay their respects.  Even its just one person?  Nor do they have the time to call a pastor, rabbi or priest and set up even a grave side ceremony?

Perhaps privacy is the intent, perhaps this was an intensely private woman who would have frowned upon the pomp and circumstance.  So if that is the case then portray that:  Viewing and Burial to be private.  However to attatch your name(s) to an obituary at the end that reads “at the convinience of the family is just disgusting.

I know I am standing in judgement of this family, and that isn’t my job…but it angers me that a woman with a family who lived 99 years can be dismissed because it’s “inconvinient”  I makes me selfishly wonder…how will my obituary, and those who like me are barren read?  Unlike this woman we don’t leave behind a child(ren) who should be willing to be inconvinienced, who want to celebrate the passign of our life…but if I did I would sincerely hope that one lesson I would leave them with is that you reap what you sow…

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A Scorpio I Am…

June 26, 2008 · 5 Comments

This was my horoscope for yesterday…

Scorpio

10/23 – 11/21

Quickie

You kept a dream in your heart for a reason. Honor it by trying one more time.

Overview

Your dreams are especially potent tonight and should point the way to something more interesting than your normal daily life. Look for clues throughout the day that remind you of your inner life.

 

 

Categories: Isn't Life Funny